Finding a babysitter and having a dreamy date night with your partner may seem like the ultimate way to squeeze in some romance while vacationing with your kids in tow; but Hubs and I have discovered you can find romance wherever your travels take you – you just have to be creative!
One of the toughest things about traveling with the Littles is finding time to be alone with your partner. However, we’ve found that staying in a vacation rental home or condo versus a hotel provides significantly more opportunities for “R,R & R” [Rest, Relaxation and Romance]. Once we put the kids to bed in their room, there’s plenty of space for Hubs and I to hang out without disturbing them – no babysitter required. However, having the extra space also means we can invite grandparents or other families along on vacation, and trade off on nights out on our own. Grandparents in our family are really sweet about picking up on our subtle hints of longing for a grown-up night away.
Another option is using a service to find pre-vetted babysitters, such as Lucky Lil’ Darlings. I chatted with Lindsay Bell, Founder and President of the company recently and they are highly committed to helping families find safe childcare.
You don't have to have a dinner date to be romantic either. Try securing childcare in the middle of the day and do something new or adventurous. One time when Hubs and I were in Barbados, we rented a tiny sail boat that we could man ourselves. Unfortunately, we caught some extra wind and got slightly nervous we would lose our way (and did I mention I was seven months pregnant at the time?), but at the end of the day we learned something new – together – and it was totally romantic and exciting.
Never underestimate the power of something simple. If childcare isn’t an option, try taking a walk with the kids in their stroller while they nap. Even short amounts of time alone can allow the two of you to connect. Also, little gestures mean a lot. Picking a flower for your wife or writing a note to your husband in the sand can be very romantic, and requires little time and effort.
Sometimes, having your little ones around can serve as a reminder of what the two of you have created together. A family and all it comes with is romantic all on its own. We sometimes can forget how incredible living that dream really is. I had the most heart-warming call with my husband while I was traveling with one daughter and he was at home with the other. The call included all four of us on the phone together and the Littles were talking to each other saying how much they love and miss one another. It was so sweet! Hubs and I were beaming to each other despite being a million miles apart.
The number one thing that adds romance to my relationship when we travel with the kids is staying relaxed. We are much more apt to hold hands, steal a kiss or share a loving glance throughout our adventure when we are both relaxed, on the same page and sharing the responsibilities as a team. It’s during those fun times that we enjoy the little moments our family shares, the funny things our kids do and we can feel the true respect and admiration we share for one another that sometimes gets lost in the daily grind.